Surrogate EFT ExplainedSurrogate EFT is the application of the regular Emotional Freedom Techniques on a surrogate or substitue. Whenever someone cannot do EFT on themselves, you or someone else can take their place. In explaining surrogate EFT, I am assuming that you already know how to apply EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). If not, go to EFT Learning first. The only thing needed to act as a surrogate is that you recognize and feel a connection to the one you are substituting for. You become them, in a manner of speaking. Surrogate EFT will work for anyone: babies, small children, people with dementia, the physically weak, those that are handicapped, and those too ill to tap on or for themselves. It also works for pets or plants. Many people feel a deep connection to their pets and plants. Surrogate EFT works because we recognize that we are all energetically connected and fundamentally one in Spirit. The surrogate simply sets the intention through spoken words or thought, "this tapping is for __________", filling in the blank with the name of the one intended to receive the benefits of the tapping. The surrogate "puts themself in the place of the child, person, animal, or plant". This means responding, as best they can, with words that the child, person, animal, or plant might say if they could express their feelings in words. For this reason it is helpful if the surrogate knows well, the one they are substituting for, or can "tune in" to how they might be feeling. The surrogate needs to "keep themselves out of the way", as Gary Craig would say. Meaning that the surrogates attention and intention needs to be free of personal views and opinions. This allows interpretation of the situation as perceived by the person being served. Keeping a clear and receptive mind is necessary to be a good surrogate. It may be helpful to have direct physical contact (touching hands) between the surrogate and the person being served. This can makes the connection very clear to the surrogate's mind.
The intensity level of the problem can be gauged by observing the client. Notice the behavior, mood, rigidity of the body, voice tone, tenseness in posture, energy level, the facial expressions, and other gestures. What intensity does that suggest? Notice any changes to what you observed to determine if the intensity is becoming less. Sighing, yawning, rapid blinking, burping, and even flatulence are all good signs of "energy release". Surrogate EFT tapping can also be done over the phone. The idea is the same. Say for example, a person calls you unable to speak or listen clearly. Perhaps they are overwhelmed with emotional upset. You would make the intention, "this tapping is for ____________(the person on the line)", and tap on yourself. Because you are present to the emotions, skipping the set-up statement and tapping on the short-cut points immediately is recommended. A reminder phrase of, "I feel so overwhelmed with emotion," may be used, if it is not clear what emotion is being expressed. Use the "set-up" statement if the tapping is not reducing or changing the emotions of the caller. Once you notice a calming effect with the tapping, tune in to the specific emotions being expressed and tap on those. Once the caller is calm enough to give you information, regular EFT can be used. Surrogate EFT can also be done over the phone with the caller being the surrogate. A child, a person with dementia, a person too physically ill to talk or move may be with them. It is helpful here if the caller can be next to or touching the person being served. The surrogate will need to be your eyes and ears and give you feedback on intensity and any noticeable changes. You will need to ask many questions of the surrogate. In this case, it is helpful to know how to do self muscle testing and use yourself as the surrogate. More accurate information can be gained (if you are well practiced and trained in this art). It is very helpful when the client cannot answer questions and you are at a loss on what to tap on. It can also be used to determine if polarity reversal is present. Gary Craig uses surrogate muscle testing in his EFT DVD's. He shortens the short-cut version of EFT even more. By doing surrogate muscle testing on himself, he can ask the client to skip the "set-up", when there is no polarity reversal. He also directs the client to tap only on the points that have meridians blocked. Do you need to get permission of the person you will be doing surrogate EFT for? The answer to this question is only briefly discussed in the EFT DVD's. In many cases, it is impossible to get verbal permission from the person being served. The surrogate tapping is offered with the intention of it being a gift. Confusion may come from a sense that we are imposing EFT on someone who may not be open to the EFT tapping or open to us doing surrogate tapping for them. Perhaps it is a son or daughter who is experiencing deep emotional pain, but who is estranged from us. Perhaps it is a stranger that we see on the street in trouble. Perhaps it is someone far away that cannot be asked in the moment. Surrogate EFT can be offered, just like we would offer a prayer for them. There is no wrong in this. I do a lot of surrogate tapping for my mother who suffers from Alzheimer's. If I ask for permission, using surrogate muscle testing, some parts give it and some don't (body does not, emotions do). I can work with the parts that do, or I can just set the intention, that what I offer can be freely received by any parts needing and wanting it. This approach can work for disassociated parts too. Return Home From Surrogate EFT
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