Letting Go of Self Sabotage
Working with
Our Best Interests and Intentions

While inherently we want to move towards what is better for ourselves, self sabotage is defined as what feels to move contrary to that.

Applied Kinesiology is where self sabotage was first identified and named Psychological Reversal (PR). This was done using muscle testing. See muscle testing to learn how to test yourself for psychological reversal.

From an energy perspective, the flow of Chi, or life force, is in opposition or flowing backwards in our Acupuncture Meridians and Chakras when focusing on something desired and there is self sabotage.

It can be experienced as an internal conflict where thoughts are pushing in one direction and feelings in the opposite.

It's like rowing down a river of energy where the poles reverse polarity; the (+) pole turns negative (-) and the negative (-) pole, turns positive (+). This causes a reversal in the current and makes it difficult to move towards what is consciously desired.

We then feel like we are literally rowing upstream. So, to get to where we want to go, it feels like we need to overcome the current against us. Depending on how strong the current is, we may find ourselves making NO progress, or end up loosing ground.

This often brings up feelings of discouragement, helplessness, and hopelessness as we see ourselves being taken further away from where we want to be.

Self sabotage can happen in any area of life and with any issue.

It can take the form of secondary gain or secondary loss. An example of secondary gain is someone that wants to loose weight, but subconsciously fears gaining extra sexual attention from men. The desired outcome of the loss of weight has an unwanted gain of more attention from men.

In the case of secondary loss, a person may want to have more wealth, but subconsciously fears loosing it by; robbery, spending it, or having the IRS take a good chunk of it, etc. The desire to have more wealth is associated with the fear of experiencing a loss, if it is taken away.

This reversal accounts for such things as athletes getting into slumps, addictions that are very hard to overcome, healing taking so long, failing despite our best intentions, and difficulty in lifting depression.

We may also just feel "off". We can't seem to get the right words out, or stop dropping things and tripping over ourselves. We can have a hard time focusing and may feel very tired. If we ran on batteries, we would feel like they were in backwards. Instead of getting charged, our energy would be getting drained.

What's more, the self sabotage generally occurs outside of our awareness.

So, we may have no idea where it's coming from. There is an energy misalignment, an internal conflict, between our conscious intentions and our subconscious beliefs and emotions. With EFT tapping, we can bring attention to the physical sensations and feelings that arise during this conflict and begin to release the reversed negative energy momentum.

Doing this will help us to stop: making excuses, blaming ourselves or feeling guilty when others blame us--"lack of will power"; "poor motivation"; "lazy"; "I inherited a fat gene"; "I grew up in a disadvantaged home", "I was abused growing up".

We can then stop seeing ourselves, and others, as victims or enemies, and feeling like we live in a world of opposition.

Our will, in the case of self sabotage, has been associated with the "Writing on our wall" that tells us what is right, wrong, good and bad, or the feelings we have when we desire something.

In other words, believing that I "should" get up and exercise when I don't feel like doing it, is perceived as an attack on our authority. For many of us, we have equated our will as "doing what we should", or exercising our will by going against the "should" and "doing what we feel". However, the will is not our "shoulds" or feelings.

Our will is our volition that chooses to do something despite, or in conjunction with, these "shoulds" and feelings. This is the will that empowers us to take charge and responsibility for our lives and recognizes the wholeness of our Self.

When self sabotage involves a secondary gain or loss, the gain or loss tends to be hidden in subconscious fears, beliefs, past experiences, and trauma. If the charge (value given to the secondary gain or loss), in the subconscious, is stronger than the charge (value) given to what we consciously want, we are changing the direction of the flow of our subtle energy.

When this happens we will have to work very hard to overcome the strong undercurrent in the subconscious. Furthermore, because often we are not aware that it's there, we misunderstand ourselves and the situation.

Besides secondary gain or loss, General Polarity Reversal can result from other factors as well:

Negativity - chronic negative thoughts
Addictions - addictive substances in the body (including alcohol, nicotine and sometimes prescription medications)
Dehydration - since the body's energy system is conducted by water, the lack of water will cause the energy to be sluggish or severely repressed
Toxin or substance sensitivity - this could be a food just eaten, clothing, carpeting, metal in or on the body such as: pins, fillings, metal plates, jewelry, a watch or a cell phone; current emotions, environmental toxins, electromagnetic frequencies, etc.

How do we let go of self sabotage?

Fortunately, the correction for Psychological Reversal is built into the Emotional Freedom Techniques. We find it in the "set-up" statement. The portion that says "...I deeply and completely accept myself".

Together with the tapping, this statement resets the poles so energy can flow in the proper direction - towards wholeness and our highest good.

The only thing we need to differently in the EFT Learning short cut sequence, is to EMPHASIZE the "...I deeply and completely accept myself" part, by saying it louder and more intensely.

If this still is not bringing the intensity of the problem down, try drinking a glass of water, or changing your location (different room, or go outside). If this still does not help, then energy toxins may be at play.

To understand the power of emphasizing the set-up statement see, How Does EFT Work?

Emphasizing the set-up of EFT may not clear all the opposing fears, beliefs, thoughts and emotions that create the undercurrent, but it can correct the reversal long enough for us to clear and heal the specific thing we are working on.

With consistent and persistent EFT practice you will re-balance and correct your energy flow eliminating self sabotage.

The results will astound you and will have made your time, investment and effort worthwhile.

I you need help, I am a Certified EFT Practitioner and available for phone sessions and also through SKYPE.

If you have questions please contact me. I look forward to hearing from you.

If you would like to work with a Certified EFT Practitioner in your area visit: www.eftuniverse.com for listings, or you may also find self growth experts at Self Growth.com.

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