Rebuilding Trust with EFT:
Turning Garbage Into Gold

By Eloisa C. Ramos, EFT-ADV., EFTCert.-II, EFT-Expert-2

Rebuilding trust means letting go of the "garbage" that distrust churns up when you feel unsafe to trust.

Perhaps the idea of digging through "garbage" is repulsive to you? What if you knew there was "gold" hidden there?

I'm all for it!

Here is my experience to encourage you to dig in and find the "gold" waiting for you.

As I’m driving, I notice the red “service” warning light turning on in the dashboard of my car, the one with the wrench on it.

I sure don’t want to see it. Who does? I hear it saying, “Danger, danger, Will Robinson,” in my head.

I notice that a part of my mind just doesn’t want to deal with the possible "mess" ahead: worry, time and money spent getting it fixed. This service light also adds fuel to some thoughts I’ve been having around trust.

You see, the “change the oil” light has also recently been coming on when I start the car and not turning off right away like it usually does.

This would not put me on “trust alert” except that two weeks ago we took the car in to get the oil changed.

Also, our dealership has just undergone major changes as a result of the shakeup in the auto industry, and the previous time I had our car serviced, I was told it needed new front brakes. But, according to a second opinion, “They still have 10,000 miles left on them!”

Given my experience, I give my mind free reign to entertain the thought that maybe the new people at the dealership are not very honest.

What if they “messed” with the car on purpose, just to get more money from us?” Well, it’s a possibility, right?

I pause to notice the "garbage" my negative thoughts are bringing up, and where that is leading to.

So I start EFT tapping to catch myself before going into this detour into fear.

I tap, "So even though, I need to take the car in, but I’m not sure I can trust them, and I’m afraid I’ve been scammed, I deeply and completely accept myself."

I continue, "Even though, this service light means trouble to me, what if the car breaks down while I’m driving? I deeply and completely accept myself."

Another round on, "So, even though I’m not feeling completely safe driving the car with the light on, but I’m afraid the repairs are going to cost more than I can afford right now, I deeply and completely accept myself."

I keep tapping for another half an hour because other issues (more garbage) show up around money and being taken advantage of.

The next day my husband sees the service light, so I’m forced to address the problem directly. I say, “It came on yesterday. Let check the auto manual.”

It says, “This light is used for non-emission related failures. Malfunctions often will be indicated by the system before any problem is apparent, which may prevent more serious damage…”

My husband comments, “I wonder if they did anything to the car when we had it serviced? People do that, you know.”

I respond, “Funny, I was thinking the same thing yesterday. But really, we don’t know that, right? So why go there?”

He agrees, and I grudgingly accept that I need to take the car in for service.

At 5:00 p.m. that evening, I go pick up my son from school and guess what? No service light! Wow, I am not sure what to think. I drive around doing errands and no service light! I decide to cancel the appointment I had made for the next day.

Two days later, I’m reflecting on the whole incident as I drive. No car dashboard lights. I feel safe. I think to myself, “Did my EFT tapping on the mistrust and fears I had around the service light showing up have anything to do with the light clearing?"

After all anything is possibly, why not? I really want to believe this and my thoughts continue, "Maybe this is a small EFT initiated miracle? At the least I have a good experience to write about.”

I am driving feeling so good, savoring my small miracle. Then, as if out of nowhere, I see the service light come up again!

A feeling of loss arises within me. It feels like my small miracle just got taken away, just when I was feeling pretty sure it was for real. So, here is more "garbage" to dig through. I start tapping on the Karate Chop point:

“Even though I feel sad, like something was taken away from me, I deeply and completely accept myself."

"Even though I was feeling so special a minute ago and now I’m not, I deeply and completely accept myself."

"Even thought it feels like I am not worthy of receiving these miracles, I deeply and completely accept myself…”

Going to the top of the head and doing the short-cut points I say the following reminder phrases: “I feel this sadness, like I lost something good. I feel this sadness, like I’m not worthy of receiving good things, I feel sad that I lost that feeling of being special, like I lost special favor with God. I feel like God doesn’t love me. I feel discriminated by God.”

I stop here to laugh at the "junk" that has just showed up. I hope you get the joke. I apparently believes that God is guilty of discrimination!!! HAHA.

How can a God that is all love discriminate? Impossible!!! It is the incredible contraction that makes it funny to me.

But seriously, at some point, I must have concluded or accepted that this was the case or I wouldn’t be feeling this way. I tune in to this feeling.

I see a part of me believing that God does not love equally and the proof is in the "special favor" he gives. This is how it looks to me. Those that have more than me, or have what I want, are obviously "more special" to God, than I am.

Here is the craziness, when something “bad” happens that I don’t want, like the light coming back on, it means, to me, that God doesn’t love me!

Wow, I didn’t know I was holding on to this "garbage" about myself. This is a BIG insight! I sense this finding is very important to my life. I feel like I just found gold!

What? My "garbage" just turned to "gold"? Yes, because to me it means freedom, freedom, and freedom once I clear it with EFT! So, I tap excitedly at the Karate Chop:

“Even though, a part of me believes and feels that God discriminates, I deeply and completely accept myself."

"So, even though it feels like God doesn’t love me when “bad” things happen or when I loose the “good” things (or people) that I have, I deeply and completely accept myself."

"So, even though I interpret the service light coming back on as proof that God finds me unworthy of his miracles and his love, I deeply and completely accept myself.”

Going to the top of the head and doing the short-cut points, I say the following reminder phrases:

“ This feeling and belief that God discriminates, that he doesn’t love me because he grants special favor only to some. This feeling and belief that God has judged me unworthy to receive good things, the proof is in the light coming back on."

"This feeling and belief that when “good” things end or are taken away, it somehow means I am unworthy of them, I deeply and completely accept myself."

"It feels like the service light coming back on is proof that it was too good to be true, and that I am really unworthy of these small miracles.”

There is more tapping that needs to be done here, but I stop because I want to tell my husband what I discovered.

“Well, the service light came back on.”

I notice how this no longer has significance or charge.

I continue, “The important thing is that I tapped on it and found the belief, that God doesn’t love me because it feels like he is showing special favor to others.”

He said, “But I thought you had believed that God loves you ever since you were a child? I said excitedly, “Yes! That is the great thing about the discovery, this opposing belief was unconscious and now it is not!!

Now it occurs to me how widespread this belief is! Nations believe they are under “God’s Grace” as long as everything is going well, but when things start falling apart, the belief is, “The country is in dis-Grace and the people are not worthy of special favor.”

I also see how this belief is blocking a client of mine because he is afraid of “hoping that his issue will clear” because what if it comes back? That would mean he is not in special favor to God and deserving of having his issue healed.

The truth is that God loves everyone equally. He is not discriminating between his children or judging anyone unworthy!

God, being all Love does not take anything away from us. It may not feel this way at times because we believe otherwise; because we have accepted "garbage" as truth.

Nevertheless, with EFT we can release the emotions from the body that support these beliefs. Without the emotions that are stuck there, false beliefs have no legs to stand on.

Clearing those unconscious beliefs (garbage) is critical in helping us to see ourselves as God created us (gold): trustworthy and loving.

Everything EFT digs up is really gold!! Granted it can feels like garbage when it shows up, but it is valuable information.

It is our ticket to freedom and puts us on the road to rebuilding trust in relationships with our Self, with others and with God/Source.

I can’t help but feel deep gratitude for that “service” light showing up, twice. It helped me to release distrust and a big misperception about God.

Was digging and going through the garbage worth my time? Definitely yes! I feel like I found GOLD!

Perhaps you prefer a "hands on" approach or a "do it yourself" deal? I also offer a condensed, online EFT Seminar which consists of four classes to get you started and put you on your way with EFT. Go to EFT Seminars.

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